“Many die at 25, but are only buried at 75.”
Already Benjamin Franklin noticed how many of his friends and acquaintances ceased to develop relatively early. Mid-twenties – most of them were already over. But why is that and why do we really want that?
The quote in the title by Benjamin Franklin came to me the other day when reading. For some reason, it shouldn’t let me down since then. Did good Franklin already know about the problem that many people stop any mental development at a relatively early age?
In psychology, it has been known for some time that the character of a person of 30 is largely so pronounced that he won’t change much anymore. But that alone isn’t what Franklin means here.
Behind his provocative statement is much more. Many of us go to school, do an apprenticeship or study, and at the latest at work it was often with all the determination and dreams that we once had.
How many former school friends do you know that – if you meet them again after 10-15 years – haven’t developed at all or hardly developed any further?
Which are still at the same point, as then? Personally, I always find such encounters pretty frightening.
There are so many people out there who complain daily about their lives, but have done nothing since their education 10 or 20 years ago.
Who have invested more money in cocktails than in their education since then and haven’t read a book since school. Who have no professional, no athletic and no character goals. People who just stopped inside.
So that we don’t misunderstand ourselves: whoever is happy with everything should quietly continue as before. But should not we, more often, remember that we only have one life and should use it as much as possible?
“Anyone who stops pursuing goals, literally commits spiritual suicide.” (Les Brown)
I still hold the firm opinion that everyone (including you) can achieve everything he can, what he wants, if he wants to.
So think about it for a moment, how are you. Did the development go up in all areas in recent years, or did you stop growing many years ago?
A few weeks ago, I talked to a high school principal about why we each do sports. He said he needed that, “to feel that he is still alive.” A statement that I found quite fascinating.
Are you still alive?
Ask yourself if you are really still alive or just trotting through life. Whether you really still deny your life with energy and zest, or if you live now only for Fridays and vacations.
If the latter is the case, perhaps you should think urgently about to change something and bring back momentum in your life. Keep on training, set challenging goals, dear God, make something of your life !
In a nutshell
Psychology claims that our character development at age 30 is largely carved in stone. Benjamin Franklin even goes one step further, saying that many of us are mentally dying at the age of 25 and then vegetate to retirement.
If we look at the reality, that is not that farfetched. Many quit relatively early setting themselves new goals or pursuing their previous ones, so that at some point they only live the same day every day.
Always be aware of the fact that you only have one life and that you need goals in order not to incur costs. You can achieve anything if you only want it and work on it daily.