How to think less: 3 Simple Tips
All too often we worry about things that we actually cannot influence. Here you will find out how to think less and devote yourself more to your actual work.
We are often asked what successful people actually do differently. It’s speculated that these people were probably just more talented, just luckier in life, and so on. When it comes to finding reasons why you didn’t just do something just as good, many people are very inventive.
But the biggest difference is quite simple: Successful and happy people – no matter whether in work, business or private life – seldom wonder if something is possible or not. They just try, even if they fail.
The danger of too much thinking
Average people prefer the easy ways. Very few of us like decisions where the consequences are uncertain. Most of our parents taught us as early as childhood that we are solely responsible for our actions and must bear the consequences of our decisions.
The problem, however, is that we often make it too easy for ourselves. We often listen far too much to outside opinions.
If one hears from the own environment still persistently sayings like “You can’t do this!” or “That’s nothing for you” and has a rather low self-confidence, it becomes very heavy with positive thinking. Desires, dreams and visions then suddenly become such statements as:
- “I would like to study, but I’m not sure I can do it.”
- “My parents say I won’t make it and should do something else.”
- “I’m afraid it will go wrong.”
Of course, such thoughts are important. Not all ideas and projects that are so buzzing around in our heads, we should really implement. So it’s certainly a great idea to get out of society for a year or two, quit the job and the apartment and leave everything behind, but maybe you should think about it a bit more.
Think less, do more
Rather, it’s about risks and decisions in life that aren’t a serious threat, but are considered by us as long as the survival of humanity depends on it.
“Who plays, can lose. Those who don’t play have already lost.”Bertolt Brecht
So we consider e.g. often for days and weeks to find out whether we are going into a relationship with someone instead of just listening to our guts and trying. In the end, we didn’t dare to do it and then ask ourselves all our lives whether we wouldn’t have tried better. It is therefore better to think through such “low-risk decisions” according to a simplified scheme.
Tips for hiw to think less
Picture the worst-case scenario
Get used to asking yourself at each decision what might happen in the worst case scenario. Here are a few examples:
- You want to do a training
In the worst case, if you don’t pass the exam, you can still pass it in the second or third try. If not, you may have lost time, but you probably couldn’t have done better anyway. And no one can take away the knowledge that you have gained.
- You are afraid of a new relationship
In the worst case, the relationship will fail after having days, weeks, months, or even years of beautiful moments in it.
You should always keep in mind: With most of the decisions you have to make, in the worst case, nothing life-threatening will happen. Sure, nobody likes to make wrong decisions. But they’re part of life and not the end of the world. Any wrong choices makes you a little more mature.
Think about your own experiences
Honestly, how many bad experiences have you had in life? Probably more than enough, like all of us. But still you’re here reading these lines.
And that’s the point! Keep reminding yourself how many times you’ve made wrong choices and how little they have actually hurt you in the end for your entire life. Whether it was a time when you didn’t feel well financially, if you just lost a job, or a relationship came to an end, in the end you made it and gained your experience.
Ask yourself what you would regret
If a decision is in front of you, ask yourself what you could live with better:
- Don’t try and then ask you again and again how your life would look like if you had tried and done it.
- Or try, possibly fail, but know the rest of your life that you have tried.
There is no right or wrong answer. Everyone thinks different. Some are reluctant to ask themselves later whether they would rather have tried something. But as we said, everyone is different. Perhaps you will read our article about what older people most regret in old age.
Every day of our lives will demand one or the other decision. There are endless ways and possibilities. Which of you ultimately choose for you, only you can decide for yourself.
However, get used to not thinking about things unnecessarily long, when in the end hardly anything bad can happen. Listen to your heart, your intuition and only spend a long time thinking about things that really matter.
In a nutshell
We tend to think about the smallest and most insignificant decisions in our lives, until we finally find enough reasons not to. We often decide against our feeling and leave many really good opportunities in life left. Successful people don’t do. They also make decisions that put them at risk of going wrong. Simply in the knowledge that success can only come from experiments and trials.
So get used to asking yourself the question of what can happen in the worst case and remind you how you’ve already coped with failure in life. For many decisions in life you do not have time forever, some chances come only once. So get used to wondering what can happen in the worst case, and remember how you’ve already mastered other situations in life.
Don’t think too much, just do it!